Why Relationships Fail and a New Model for Thriving Partnerships – HPP 01

Jayson Gaddis

With the challenges faced in modern relationships, it makes sense why so many of them end with a sense of incompletion and failure. As therapists, there have been a lot of tools and models developed to deal with this dilemma, but partnerships  rarely achieve optimal states of health, attachment, and intimacy.

Jayson Gaddis, relationship expert and student, and founder of the relationship school, is here to talk to us about how to do relationships in a truly meaningful and healthy way. He’s going to discuss a new model and open a doorway for you on why so many people struggle in their partnerships and how to break out of the cycle.

Show Notes:

A new perspective on why modern relationships are so hard [3:53]

Different types of relational stress and readiness for change [7:29]

You know you’re in a healthy relationship when you feel this way [9:01]

A new paradigm for doing conflict [10:54]

A personal example of agreements that sustains a marriage [13:52]

How to make it work if one partner is more motivated to change than the other [17:56]

What’s the biology of the honeymoon phase and when does it become a problem for relationship [27:51]

The importance of the different kinds of regulatory processes in the nervous system [37:36]

An important reminder for therapists working with couples [45:45]

Jayson Gaddis

Jayson Gaddis, relationship student & teacher, host of the Smart Couple Podcast, and founder of The Relationship School® is on a mission to teach people the one class they didn’t get in school–”How to do romantic relationships.” He was emotionally constipated for years before relationship failure forced him to turn his life over to learning about relationships. Now, he’s married to his amazing wife of 8 years and has two beautiful kids. When he doesn’t live and breathe this stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him.