The Role of Rites of Passage in Supporting Mental Health
The reintroduction or adaptation of rites of passage into therapeutic settings can be transformative.
Rites of passage can support mental health by:
- Providing Structure: When we are stepping into a new phase of life, there is often a lot of uncertainty. Structured rituals can create a safe space for folks to process their experiences and emotions, reducing anxiety and increasing a sense of groundedness.
- Fostering Community: One of the key benefits of ancient rituals was their emphasis on community, and often, the Earth. Being in connection with other beings (both human and nonhuman) who bear witness to and honor our transitions with support and compassion can help cultivate collective safety and resilience. Sharing our experiences of being alive helps everyone to know that we are not alone.
- Encouraging Reflection and Growth: Rites of passage offer a designated time for introspection. This pause is crucial in modern Western society, where many are focused on “getting ahead” and checking off the daily to-do lists. Acknowledging our emotional and psychological needs helps us remain in contact with our aliveness, particularly during times of grief and loss.
- Honoring Age: Aging and loss are inevitable, yet the Western world often avoids confronting these realities. Rituals that honor aging can help individuals accept these stages with grace and a sense of fulfillment. While birthdays are one way of recognizing age, I wonder what it would look like to facilitate gatherings that are meant to pass on the wisdom of elders and celebrate connection with spirit, given that death is a universal truth.
Reintegrating Rites of Passage
Rites of passage can be reintegrated into our lives. From a therapeutic point of view, groups of adolescents transitioning into adulthood can be appreciated by guided reflection, sharing of personal challenges and goals, and a symbolic gesture that signifies their readiness to take on new responsibilities. For folks who are facing significant loss, whether a loved one has passed or a relationship has ended, we might support the process of writing a letter or holding a small gathering to share memories— something that could help in processing grief and fostering emotional healing. Similarly, life transitions related to aging can be marked through rituals that commemorate achievements and open up space to pass down legacies. Mindfulness practices, storytelling, and symbolic acts, such as planting a seed to signify growth or lighting a candle to represent hope, can also be incorporated.
Rites of passage don’t need to look a certain way; in fact, it is important to be mindful of cultural appropriation. There is no need to reenact a ceremony from another time or place. I encourage us all to get curious about what kinds of activities or events might feel symbolic and significant for our unique transition and felt experience of the changes occurring. If creating a ceremony in a group, draw on the collective wisdom of the group, understanding why certain experiences might be supportive. We might ask ourselves, Is this just something that I saw, or is this something that feels meaningful to me?
Conclusion
While rites of passage might sound frivolous, their absence in modern life is deeply felt, even if only on the unconscious level. Recognizing the power of these ceremonies allows us to support friends, family, and clients in powerful ways as they navigate life’s many transitions. Whether through reviving community practices or crafting personal rituals, bringing the essence of rites of passage back into our culture offers the potential for a more connected and resourced society.